All You Need is Love… Really????


Do What You LoveAre you part of this trend that says that all you need to do is “do what you love” and the money will follow?

Research shows that the young generation is totally focused on doing ONLY what they love. Endless research proves that in order to motivate the young generation the incentives need to be different than just a higher paycheck or security.

People are looking for projects that would ignite their passions and that would allow them to do what they love.

Ever since I remember myself I used to say that I don’t care how much you pay me, as long as I’m doing what I love the money is not really important for me. The result was… I was broke!

Well, maybe not broke, I was working 2 or 3 jobs at the same time, but I lived on bare necessities.

key-to-success2As I grew up I adopted a slightly more modern version of it, which was… if you do what you love – the money will follow.

When I was writing my book Financial Independence for Women I found out that many women buy this myth. Like any myth – the fact that lots of people believe it and repeat it – doesn’t make it true. At least not the whole truth.

I believe that doing what you love (or better yet – what you’re passionate about) is only one third of the key to your business success.

The secret to success is finding the balance point between three elements. Your natural talents, your passions and what you have to give to the world.

Balance PointWhen you find this balance point, you play to your strengths.

Your talent is what comes easy to you therefore your work becomes play (because you love it).
The end result is that money will flow in because your bank account is always a reflection of how much value you deliver to the market place.

To find this balance point – which is the key to your business success, you have to ask yourself 3 questions.

For each question make a list of answers, and then look for one answer (or more) that appears on all 3 lists.

And the questions are…

  1. What comes easy to you, but harder to others?
  2. What would you love doing even if you’ll never get paid for?
  3. How can you be of service and how can you contribute to the world?

Ahhh momentMy answers (in short) would look like:

  1. Communicating, sharing my knowledge, creating relationships, parenting, energizing, dancing, singing and performing, challenging people and concepts, trying new things…
  2. Sharing my knowledge, singing and performing, reading to children, diving…
  3. Empowering others, sharing my knowledge, philanthropy, writing books, working with children and educators…

It took me a minute to come up with these 3 lists, and it’s pretty clear that ‘sharing my knowledge’ appear in all 3 lists.

When I look back at my life it all makes sense. I started teaching when I was 18 and never stopped.

I shared my knowledge with kids, teenagers and grownups, with the challenged and the gifted, the unemployed and the super rich, on more topics than I can remember…

I’ve created new concepts of education both in the main stream and out of the main stream of education

I’m good at it, I love it, and I believe I delivered a lot of value to the world through the years… And finding that balance point was the key to my success.

I’m curious to hear from you…

What would be your balance point?

Share with us in, the comment box below, your answers to the 3 questions and others might help you in find that balance point ? 

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Have a magical week! Vered

15 Comments

  1. Elisabeth Schuijt

    on 7th Dec, 14 05:12pm

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    Before this I have not been able to see so clearly what comes easy to me. Reading other post helped me seeing this for myself! And there is much more to discover. Thank you for this question.

    1 What comes easy: seeing possibilities / alternatives in and outside the box, interest in others, learning, creating with my hands and playing: with words, kids, possibilities

    2 love: seeing possibilities / alternatives in and outside the box, interest in others, learning, creating with my hands and playing: with words, kids, possibilities, diving, traveling, enjoying life, cooking / backing, gardening, translate

    3, contribute: teaching / facilitating, writing, uplifting

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  2. Greta van Buuren

    on 9th Nov, 14 03:11pm

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    I’m still searching and recently found out that I have only one barrier to find out my passion, my talent and what I have to give to the world.

    This barrier is me, myself and I; but what I do know that I am driven by inspiring the world and that my talent is organizing.

    My passion? being human. I’ll get there, I will! Thanx Vered (once again…)

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  3. Lidy van Oord

    on 8th Nov, 14 11:11am

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    My passion is to help people. I love to connect people to each other so they can find the opportunity they are looking for..
    I always find it exciting meeting new people and d o that what I like

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  4. Margje van der Lei

    on 6th Nov, 14 02:11pm

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    1. What comes easy to you, but harder to others?
    Recognize life patterns, making the invisible visible.

    2. What would you love doing even if you’ll never get paid for?
    Helping others to see their life patterns.

    3. How can you be of service and how can you contribute to the world?
    Helping others to recognize their life patterns, turning the uncertainty into certainty/self esteem.

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  5. Wil Konings

    on 6th Nov, 14 11:11am

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    Personally, I keep getting new insights in my balance point.

    My insights so far point me towards: Making hard/complex things easy to understand for everyone, so we may all experience more power and control over our own lives and less things just ‘happen to us’.

    Vered, thank you for an inspirational article once again, you got me thinking!

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  6. Zefanja Vermeulen

    on 5th Nov, 14 10:11pm

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    Thanks for the questions, my awnsers are

    What comes easy to you, but harder to others?
    I can give people confidence, trying new things, inspiring people to look further than their nose

    What would you love doing even if you’ll never get paid for? Empowering persons, sharing my knowledge, building skeletons off horses

    How can you be of service and how can you contribute to the world?
    Sharing my knowledge, give people confidence

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  7. Diana Lo-A-Njoe

    on 5th Nov, 14 03:11pm

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    WOW, you are so incredibly insightful, Vered. Thank you (again).

    My balance point:

    1) “Founding” – creating something (a project) out of nothing and drawing people and other resources in. Intermediating between “worlds” of people & cultures & information & projects. Seeing/appreciating/verbalizing the best in people & situations. Being clear, strong and determined, together with being soft and gentle.

    2) Writing. Sitting in cafe’s drinking coffee with friends, or enjoying my own company. Listening to “weird” spiritual audio’s on YouTube. Business and personal development courses. Having meaningful conversations. Intermediating between people & information. Painting.

    3) Intermediating between “worlds” of people & cultures & information & projects.

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  8. Sascha Meyer

    on 5th Nov, 14 02:11pm

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    1. Listen to people without judging, to connect disciplines, to learn about myself, to make new things from old stuff, design creative concepts about food and cloths, playing with words, handicrafts, writing, styling, to look forward

    2. Creating by my hands: playing piano, writing, cooking, styling

    3. Playing with food (materials) and make stories with children, forerunner

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  9. Daniëla Postma

    on 5th Nov, 14 12:11pm

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    For me it’s writing… Writing is like breathing: I can’t live without it.

    My passion is to help others to communicate their story on paper and make a book out of it, so people become connected and start sharing. And yes… if you do what you love, it never feels like work.

    Although:to be good and to stay good you always need more exercise, you must keep developing yourself… There are always new things to discover. And the best is to be found just a little bit out of your comfort zone…

    But that’s exactly why it is so interesting to do this job. It will never get boring! 🙂

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  10. Bea Blauwendraat

    on 5th Nov, 14 12:11pm

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    Reading your blog Vered I realized that creativity, teaching and sharing knowledge appear to be also my balance point.

    As a schoolgirl I wanted to be a teacher on elementary school, however the education to become one appeared to be too childish so I choose to become a secretary, like my mother.

    As this was not a creative profession, I made it one. Though, creativity liked to come out of me and I became a fashion designer. I taught it to others for 10 years!

    Then I became a photographer and again I became a teacher again just by being asked to be one: for more than 15 years by now I am training professionals and consumers.

    Why am I so sure that being a trainer is my natural habitat? Because after each training I feel happy and satisfied that I was able help so many people and by doing that I feel I have all the patience in the world to explain again and again, contrary to my normal behavior.

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  11. Saskia van der Heijden

    on 5th Nov, 14 12:11pm

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    1. writing, dancing, approach people, give confidence, trying new things, inspiring people
    2. writing, dancing, inspiring people in groups, make people happy
    3. writing about the gift of high sensitivity, inspiring people to discover their gifts

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  12. Saskia van der Heijden

    on 5th Nov, 14 12:11pm

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    1. writing, dancing, inspiring others, creating trust, make contact, trying new things
    2. writing, dancing, watching art-house movies, working with groups, make people happy,
    3. writing about high sensitivity, working with groups, inpiring people to discover their gifts

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  13. Lara Olivetti

    on 5th Nov, 14 12:11pm

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    Popularizing legal concepts in an effective way is the point of balance I found over the years.

    It involves
    searching information in various languages and comparing legal systems,
    selecting the core concepts
    observing people’s needs
    creating a language which conveys this knowledge in a simple yet precise way
    at the same time, communicating people that you care and want them to use this knowledge to achieve their goals

    You would probably call all of this “teaching”. But to me it is studying the prevailing activity.

    Thanks!

    n.b. I hope this time my gravatar works and does not display me as another monster faced contributor…

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  14. Jantina Kautz

    on 5th Nov, 14 10:11am

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    Good questions!

    1. Teaching, creating awareness, writing, performing

    2. indeed…the same as number 1!!

    3. By sharing my knowledge, writing, teach parents and other educators.

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  15. Coco den Blanken

    on 5th Nov, 14 10:11am

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    1. what comes easy to me and harder to others is approaching people to ask them to help me, observing behavior and habits, separate true from false, extracting wisdom from concepts, to be disciplined and committed, speaking languages, being without gene, meditate, use my voice, use my imagination, stand physically challenging situations, touch people

    2. being a mother, cook for others healthy food, read stories, busy with food, touch people to release tensions, learn other languages, train my body to utter flexibility and receptiveness and health, give people tips on how to use their voice, write stories, sing, hum, vibrate my body with my voice

    3. by using my voice to move people, teach people how to change their life/health by eating properly, accomodating people to feel save cared for, bring people in contact with their body/posture create softness

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